Why You’re Not Lazy — You’re Just Burnt Out (and How to Fix It as a Busy Mom)

Feeling unmotivated or disengaged can be frustrating, especially when you label yourself as "lazy." However, it's essential to recognize that what you may be experiencing is not laziness but burnout. In this article, we will look at signs of burnout, how it differs from laziness, and practical steps you can take to reclaim your energy and enthusiasm for life. Even as a busy mom, I can implement these habits and want to share them with you!

Understanding Burnout

Burnout occurs when emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion builds up from prolonged stress. It appears as chronic fatigue, heightened irritability, or a growing sense of detachment from your work or personal life. For example, did you know that around 77% of people experience symptoms of burnout? It can strike anyone, regardless of their job or lifestyle, and is often linked to factors like work pressure, lack of support, and neglecting self-care.

Recognizing burnout is the first step toward healing. It goes beyond mere fatigue; the weariness can be both physical and emotional, making daily tasks feel Herculean. As a busy mom you may have many tasks on your list, or balls in the air and making sure everything is taken care of can be a lot. But it can be really hard to make a change if you don't realize you are close to burn out, so check out the list below and see if anything resonates with you.

Signs You Might Be Burnt Out

• Chronic Fatigue: Persistent tiredness can mean you're burnt out, even if you sleep well. For instance, 60% of people report feeling tired despite adequate sleep, indicating mental fatigue.

• Irritability: Snapping at loved ones or feeling constantly frustrated can be a sign of burnout.

  
  

• Disengagement: Losing interest in activities or work you once found fulfilling is a significant red flag for burnout.

  
  

• Reduced Performance: Are you finding it harder to meet deadlines or generate creative ideas? This decline often stems from burnout rather than a lack of effort.

  
  

• Physical Symptoms: Burnout can also present itself through physical ailments, such as headaches or stomach issues. According to health studies, up to 29% of people report physical health problems due to stress.

  
  

If you identify with several of these signs, it's time to take action. There is no judgement, I have been there along with most moms!

The Difference Between Burnout and Laziness

Understanding the line between burnout and laziness is crucial for effective treatment. Laziness is generally associated with a lack of motivation, while burnout stems from overwhelming stress that drains your energy.

For example, if you find yourself unable to start a project even though you have time, it may not just be laziness. It could indicate burnout. Addressing burnout requires a more in-depth strategy than simply trying to push through it.

Ways to Fix Burnout

With a clear understanding of burnout, let’s discuss practical strategies to help you recover and regain your energy, even as a busy mom:

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

Recognizing that you are feeling burnt out is vital. Accepting your situation can be liberating and is the first step toward recovery. Write in your journal, chat with your partner, call a friend, there are many ways to kickstart this process.

2. Set Boundaries

Establish clear boundaries to protect your time and energy. For example, if work is overwhelming, talk to your manager about redistributing tasks or declining new projects temporarily. Talk to your partner and family about helping with tasks like dishes, food prep, cleaning, groceries etc. Make a list of tasks you feel could be more evenly shared or rotated through the weeks. You do not need to do everything as a mom.

3. Take Breaks

Integrate regular breaks into your day to recharge. Techniques like the Pomodoro Technique, which advocates for 25 minutes of focused work followed by a 5-minute break, can increase productivity and relieve stress. If you have more control over your schedule, make sure you allow for set breaks to eat, go to the bathroom, go outside, move your body etc. I try to move in my morning routine, have 1 set hour for lunch with walk right after. and 4 days a week I have set workout times. How can you make sure you get enough breaks during your busy days?

4. Practice Self-Care

Self-care should be prioritized. Engaging in activities that rejuvenate you—like exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature—can greatly improve your mental health. For instance, studies show that physical activity can reduce feelings of stress by 30%. If you want 1:1 support for personalized exercise book a free call here.

5. Seek Support

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Discuss your feelings with trusted friends, family members, or a mental health professional. Sometimes, sharing can provide perspective and relief. I have a great list of professionals I can refer if needed, please reach out.

6. Reevaluate Your Goals

Take time to reassess your goals. Are you working toward realistic objectives that align with your values? For example, if your goal is to excel at a job that leaves you unhappy, consider revisiting your career path. Do you want more or less time with the kids, not everyone wants to work full time or be a stay at home mom, find what works best for you! I like to work Monday-Thursday and have a long weekend with my son and husband.

7. Embrace Mindfulness

Practicing mindfulness can lower feelings of overwhelm. Techniques like yoga, meditation or nervous system resets through breathe work help ground you and foster clarity. Studies suggest that mindfulness can lead to a 20% reduction in stress levels. Check out Kristine from Well Within Studio on ways to reset the nervous system and connect back with yourself. Try this guided practice for free to get you started!

8. Get Enough Sleep

Quality sleep is key to recovery. Aim for 7-9 hours each night and establish a bedtime routine that soothes your body and mind. Working on a good morning and evening routine can be a game changer here, if you want help with this feel free to book a call with me and we can dig deeper into routines that work best for you and your sleep!

9. Limit Screen Time

Set boundaries around your screen use, especially during evenings. For instance, consider a digital detox on weekends to give your mind much-needed rest. I try to have certain times on the weekend be completely phone free and we also only watch a show once our son is in bed, find what works for you while promoting disconnection from technology and screens.

10. Rediscover Your Passions

Engage in hobbies that bring you joy. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or long walks with friends, making time for enjoyable activities can revitalize your spirit. I believe that doing one thing per day that brings you joy, small or big can help you feel more productive. You can make a list of everything that brings you joy and keep it somewhere visible to help you do one per day without excuses. My lists includes things like: reading, walking on the trails, watching a funny show, playing hockey, petting my dog, playing with my son etc.

Final Thoughts

If you’ve been feeling unmotivated or disengaged, remember that you’re likely not lazy — you’re experiencing burnout. By acknowledging the signs and taking proactive steps to address it, you can recover your energy and enthusiasm for life. Pick just one option from the 10 suggestions above and work on it for a week and then see if you can add another one. This gradual increase can help you take small actions steps to boost energy.

Implementing these strategies takes time, but the journey toward healing is worth your effort. Be patient with yourself, and always remember that it’s okay to seek help. You have the power to overcome burnout and rediscover the joy in your life. And remember, I am always here for support, email me at kbhealthcoach1@gmail.com